12 Curious Questions about Coaching
Why does coaching work?
- Coaching works because the process finds the best solution with you. The Coach listens objectively to the information you provide and finds the root of the challenge by being curious about your fears and motivations.
- Coaching is personal and requires your openness, vulnerability, and a desire to increase self-awareness.
- What occurs in coaching is rather rare. It's a chance to learn rather than be told what to do. That learning facilitates lasting change to shift beliefs and realign behaviors to what's desired.
How much does personal coaching cost?
- Coaching costs vary depending on the type (executive, career, life), frequency (weekly, twice a month, as-needed), in-person vs. phone/Skype and duration of the coaching (90 days, 6 months, 1 year). Coaching may combine do-it-yourself exercises or online learning in addition to coaching.
- Like any other investment in personal improvement (health, books, training, mentoring), budgeting for coaching is making a personal commitment to your personal development.
- Coaching is not equal to paying for the time you're with your Coach. Coaching occurs much beyond the session itself. 80% of your discovery will happen outside of the coaching conversation
- Unlike a book or a training, coaching helps you achieve your dreams. How much are your dreams, happiness, freedom and clarity worth to you?
How much time will it take?
- A common excuse is to say, "I'm too busy" to work with a Coach. Coaching requires you to abandon all excuses including this one. If you want the change, you must be willing to work for it.
- Time spent on coaching and action steps replaces the time you currently spend stewing, worrying and fearing what to do next. After a few weeks with consistent coaching, the fog, burden and limbo that you've been experiences lifts.
- You can work with your Coach to set expectations and begin slowly if that's what you prefer.
- The "work" in coaching means you have solidly made a commitment to yourself for change. You're in control how much time you spend on that commitment, like with any commitment in your life. If you need to set boundaries, you're free to do so.
What if I'm not coachable?
- A person is coachable when they are open, listening, and showing up to the coaching conversation willing to face their truths.
- There are many techniques Coaches have to break through the barriers to answering questions honestly. Not being honest with a Coach serves no one.
- Luckily for the person who thinks they're uncoachable, there is no judgment in coaching. There's no blame, no guilt or negative influences from the Coach. The Coach creates a safe and confidential environment to support the client where they are.
- The Coach holds the client capable, even when the truth is hard to face, or there's a need for defensiveness to protect oneself.
- The coaching goes as deep as the client permits. If a topic is off-limits, both Coach and client will discover these sensitivities together
What if I like to do things myself?
- DIY is encouraged in coaching. This quality works to your advantage.
- The coaching relationship is built on trust. It may take time to full trust your Coach and partner who is here to support your goals.
- The Coach will support the DIY person with accountability to their goals.
- The Coach will leverage the DIY person's resourcefulness and capabilities.
- In addition, the Coach's role is not to advise or direct. It's not a mentorship relationship. It's a partnership, a sounding board, an objective observer and a thinking partner.
What should I do?
- Great question. Coaching does not provide you with advice, answers or shortcuts to what you want.
- The Coach will not tell you which job to choose, which school to attend, or which offer to accept.
- The question itself contains a red flag work - "should." Should implies self-judgment that there is a right and a wrong answer to choose from. Coaching will explore this question from a different angle and remove judgment and external voices that make it hard for the client to think about the situation clearly.
What if I don't need coaching?
- No one needs coaching. You can do nothing, stay with the status quo and continue on the path you're already on (the one that you want to change).
- You have to want to be coached. You have to crave the new change so bad that you're done tolerating what you have, and you're ready to achieve what you want.
How do I know what type of coaching (life, executive, career) is best for me?
- There are many non-standardized terms which describe types of coaching. These terms such as life, career, corporate, executive and business, can be confusing. Typically the Coach you want specializes in the area you want support in - your career, your life, your business or your company and leadership within that company.
- A qualified coach will adapt their approach to your learning style and individual needs. The best way to find a coach for you is to experience their initial consultation and choose the best fit."
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What is Skype coaching?
- Skype coaching uses phone or phone/video for a coaching session via your personal computer for free.
- Either with video enabled or just using audio on your computer, coaching can be easily done remotely using Skype.
- Skype allows you to work with a Coach who may reside outside of your local area. You may prefer in-person, however using Skype and video technology saves you time in commuting, avoiding traffic, parking, etc. You will also save in your coaching as most clients pay a higher fee to meet their Coach in-person.
- You'll need to register for a free Skype account which allows Skype to Skype calls for free.
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Who are your clients? Where are they located?
- Ideal clients are high performers, high achievers, Type A and perfectionists
- They are often parents 40-55 years old with children under 10.
- They hold corporate positions in HR, Coaching, Consulting, Technology, Construction, Financial Services, Non-Profit Organzations and Government and enjoy organization, process, professional development and advancing.
- They wake up one day questionining "How did I get here?" and "Where am I going?"
- They are stressed about how much longer they can keep this pace. Their career is a big part of their identity.
- They reside in big cities in US and Canada. (I'm open to working with committed individuals outside of North America assuming time zones differences allow for coaching within Pacific Time zone business hours.)
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I'm not in the Seattle area, so how can I avoid long-distance charges?
- For your convenience, you receive a call for each appointment so as to avoid any long distance or international charges to your phone bill. If you need to dial us, we have a toll-free number too!
- For clients using Skype, we have free voice calls and instant messages.
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Why would successful people get a coach?
- Great question. Coaching is about continuous improvement.
- Many successful people you know have or are currently working with a coach.
- Coaching keeps successful people accountable in their careers and offers a scheduled space for personal development thinking and self-reflection.
- Coaching supports an outside observer and thinking partner to achieve your goals. The Coach is outside your immediate circles, your network, your family and friends and can just listen for what's essential to help you move forward.
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